Happiness and Unhappiness of Human life

Mahatma Gandhi said that Our happiness or unhappiness is always determined by our thoughts. Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do, are in harmony.
BUDDHA said that Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared. .
Our thoughts determine what people and situations mean to us. Our thoughts determine our experience of ourselves and others—how people and things and situations exist for us in our awareness. But we are usually unaware of the role of our thoughts, and so we believe that we are simply experiencing “what is there,” “how things really are.” And therefore we think that it is the people and things and situations outside of ourselves that are causing us to be happy or unhappy.
But actually, whenever we are unhappy, we are always unhappy about our own interpretation of our situation, our own thoughts. And when we are happy, we are really just responding to our own interpretation, our own thoughts. All of our thoughts more or less hold together in our overall way of thinking. Without some level of consistency, we could make no sense of ourselves and the world. Everything would be just meaningless chaos.
What holds any way of thinking together are its foundational core beliefs, its underlying foundational principles. These core beliefs are usually subconscious presuppositions, at least until we make some kind of deliberate effort to discover them.
It turns out that some core beliefs are incompatible with the experience of deep and lasting happiness. What that means is that a way of thinking based on such core beliefs will always interpret everything—every person, thing and situation—in a way that contains some element of conflict and fear. That is not to say that we are unpeaceful and unhappy all of the time. It simply means that there is always at least the potential for threat and conflict and loss in every experience. Sometimes that potential is deeply buried in our subconscious; other times it is fully present in our unhappy awareness. But it is always there, because every interpretation we make is based on core beliefs which are fundamentally incompatible with perfect happiness.
Moreover, it turns out that these core beliefs that are incompatible with happiness are the core beliefs that are so prevalent in human culture that they are simply taken for granted. Most of us don’t think of them as “beliefs” or “choices” at all—we think that they simply describe “how things really are.” And so our usual everyday experience tends to vacillate between happiness and unhappiness. There may be relative differences in the mixture from person to person. But most of us have this on-going cycle, this mixture of happiness and unhappiness. This is what some mystics call “the endless wheel of suffering,” or “the endless wheel of life and death.”
Until we recognize those core beliefs, and we replace them with different core beliefs, we can never experience deep and lasting happiness no matter what we do, or how much we acquire, or what special techniques we practice, or how many affirmations and visualizations we do. Our habitual thought patterns will always end up interpreting our lives in a way that introduces an element of fear and conflict. Our happiness will always be sabotaged, at least to some extent, by our underlying fundamental principles. But due to the mental sleight of hand called “projection,” it will always seem to us that our unhappiness is being caused by external forces beyond our control.
We all live through moments of happiness and unhappiness, each varying in intensity. Which experience, would we say, can be the stronger of the two?
Before answer, let’s clarify first what “strength of an emotion” means. In accordance with the definition of happiness, I propose that one “happy moment” is of equal strength to one “unhappy moment” if we would be indifferent to re-living both of them (if offered as a “package”), i.e. the positive moment exactly compensates the experience from the negative one. With this in mind, I believe most people would say that being in a state of maximum unhappiness (which would most likely be a state of severe pain) can considerably outweigh maximum states of happiness (be it sexual pleasure, feelings of success, etc.) of same duration.
We may also try to explain this subjective assessment from a more “objective” and evolutionary perspective. As both pleasure and pain are nature’s tools to motivate us to do what is best for our (genes’) reproduction, the question is: Does nature steer us more by telling us what not to do (punishment), or by actively rewarding us for what nature understands as positive actions or happenings?
At last I leave you with great Indian poet Kalidasa.Read and think deeply about happiness and unhappiness of human life….
KALIDASA
Listen to the Exhortation of the Dawn!
Look to this Day!
For it is Life, the very Life of Life.
In its brief course lie all the
Verities and Realities of your Existence.
The Bliss of Growth,
The Glory of Action,
The Splendor of Beauty;
For Yesterday is but a Dream,
And To-morrow is only a Vision;
But To-day well lived makes
Every Yesterday a Dream of Happiness,
And every Tomorrow a Vision of Hope.
Look well therefore to this Day!
Such is the Salutation of the Dawn!

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